Openness

Would you consider yourself an open person? When deconstructing, this is an incredible challenge. How open should you be? A lot of us struggle with what is safe to reveal. This possibly stems from the trauma suffered in earlier church situations. When friends disagree and leave you because of your views it hurts and leaves a scar. How do you recover and feel safe again? Do boundaries need to be set up? Let us look at some possible tactics that may help you:

• Find like-minded people.

• Set your boundaries up before meeting people. 

• Seek out a counselor/life coach or both.

• Decide what you want to talk about and what is off limits until you feel safe. It is okay to not answer questions.

• Decide what qualities you are looking for in a friend.

Obviously, this list is just a start to get you thinking. I want you to recognize your own strength and power. Please reach out if you would like some help.